We are planning a memorial on Sunday, March 29th. The details are not set but please mark your calendar with this date, more details will come soon.
Thanks a lot,
Xochi
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My blog will be dedicated to my dad, Pat. Anything at all that someone would like to post or say, please do write. Or pictures or anything. Thanks so much. Xochi
In cleaning out the house to be able to move back to Los Angeles we realize that Pat never held on to things, they were not important, with maybe the exception of his bed and shoes and pillow. What he valued in his life was his experiences and memories. He had such a full life, traveling the world, meeting thousands of people, creating beautiful lighting for films and interesting projects at home.
ReplyDeleteHe taught us all a lot but maybe more than any thing to live our experiences to learn from them and to enjoy life.
And you know what, every person I've talked to about Pat remembers a moment or a funny story about Pat but you're right, they don't say anything about things he may have had or that sort of thing.
ReplyDeleteIt has been three weeks now since Pat has gone. Our friends came from New Hampshire to visit. They had planned to do it since last year, but it is so wonderful to have them now. We have been friends for thirty years. It makes such a difference to be with people who knew Pat so well. We were talking about how difficult it is for men to reach out to each other and have intimate conversations. Pat had called our friend to reach out from time to time by taking about the Patriots. My friend realized the friendship could have been deeper and beyond scores. He was going to work on that with Pat when he came and now it is too late. He is so sad about that. Men so often are in competition and that keeps them from opening to each other. Perhaps Pat's passing has given my friend an opportunity to open more and not let this happen to him again. Women talk to each other about everything. Pat used to say, enough, I don't really care about this and that when I was telling him about my friends experiences. I'd laugh at him. I think that men want to fix things, not listen to what is happening. MY friend confirmed that. Men tend to be in competition with themselves, but nobody really knows why. I will be thinking about Pat and all the kind things he did for us for the rest of my life.
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